Klara Lang 2 years ago
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Have you ever struggled with the pain of loving someone who doesn’t love you back?? It may be hard, but you can recover from it.
I loved it. I loved it so much that I learned its schedule and browsed its social media page. I know this is an unhealthy measure, but… I loved it.
Things have changed now, and the memory of him has faded away. However, I remember what it felt like to fall in love with someone who barely knew I existed. He was always empty inside and I was hungry for his affection that never came.
I mean, loving someone who doesn’t love you is like loving a ghost.
It’s suffocating and it swallows up your whole life. It seems that every moment is used to plan how to win this person over. Unfortunately, many of us just don’t get it.
So if you find yourself in this predicament, loving someone who doesn’t share the same feelings, what should you do to be?
Here are a few suggestions.
1. Assume the person you love actually knows how you feel about them.
But let’s also assume that he doesn’t feel the same way. You have been rejected. It can be devastating, and it will take some time to understand what happened. In cases of rejection, one thing to remember is that it won’t last, or, better yet, something more substantial may come along – another door may open while this one closes. Keep the faith.
2. Try to look at the situation in a different light.
Ask yourself an important question about your recent crush – "Would you rather not have loved them at all?? I guess you will never really be able to answer this question.
But think of it this way: you had the opportunity to dream and fantasize about someone you thought was beautiful. You felt butterflies in your stomach, even if you were the only one who felt them.
I think it was worth it, wasn’t it? Think about it, smile, and then move on. So it’s healthy.
Alfred Lord Tennyson said,
"It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all".
3. It may be hard for you to think of it this way, but remember one thing:
Unrequited love hurts even the rejecter. What? You have heard correctly. Those who feel the need to reject another suffer from feelings of guilt. You take no pleasure in disappointing someone or hurting their feelings. The person you have feelings for, yes, they can be a really good person who just wants to be honest with you.
4. Analyze the situation, ask yourself this question the next time you find yourself in unrequited love situations, "Is this a pattern?"
Well, I suppose if you keep this up, it’s obviously more than just a random incident. Are your patterns of loving the unattainable simply projections from childhood neglect or something like that?
Dig Deep, See if Something in the Past is Making You Cling to Those You Don’t Want or Can’t Love Back.
5. And don’t panic.
You are not alone in this situation. Like I said, I was there, I did that and bought the t-shirt. In fact, over 90% of us have fallen in love with someone at one time or another, with no hope that those feelings will be reciprocated in return.
It doesn’t mean you’re a freak or a weirdo, it just means you feel something the other person doesn’t think about, maybe just hasn’t thought about it. In rare cases, unrequited feelings are eventually reciprocated! This is an idea. But don’t force it!
6. Okay, I hate to mention this here, but it needs to be addressed.
Sometimes when you love someone who doesn’t love you back, it can cause depression or anxiety. In this case, you may need to seek therapy to heal from the pain. This is not a joke, and anyone who makes fun of this kind of situation has never been hurt this badly before.
Unappreciated love can hurt deeply, and sometimes you need help to get through the pain.
So let’s begin the healing process
So let’s just say if you love him the way I loved my crush, it’s going to be a long road to recovery. I can’t explain why we fall so far, and especially why we fall for the unattainable, but I can say this: it will get better. Never be ashamed of who you love or why you love, it all comes from the heart.
If you have feelings for someone who doesn’t share the same feelings for you, that’s okay. These ideas and steps will help you get back to your old self, start fresh, and wait for the other doors to open. Behind one of these doors is someone who will love you back.
Of this I am sure.
If you want to learn more about how to get away from someone who doesn’t love you back, watch this video below: