Imagine the following scenario: You know that your partners*in speaks a different language than you. So you probably (or hopefully) take this into consideration and express yourself / communicate in a way that he/she will understand you too. Well, in love there is actually a kind of "language" that is very relevant in this regard.
The Five Languages of Love (Love Languages) according to Gary Chapman
Antonia Six (@mindfully_me_) is a certified yoga teacher& also works in marketing and as MCA (menstrual cycle awareness) Educator at breathe ilo. She gives you here a summary of the 5 languages of love.
You may express affection to your partner on a regular basis, but do you really take the time to make sure that you are conveying it in a way that your partner can/will receive it??
Even love can sometimes get lost in translation when two partners speak different languages of love.
Gary Chapman, author of the book of the same name "The 5 Languages of Love", defines five different languages of love – or more precisely: five unique communication styles of love. He derived these categories from his many years of experience in marriage counseling and linguistics.
What are the 5 languages of love and which love languages are there??
The five languages of love are five different ways of expressing and receiving love:
Acknowledging words of affirmation
Appreciation through actions and words of support
Quality time for two
physical closeness and tender touch
Not everyone communicates love in the same way, and likewise, people have different ways they can receive love or want to receive it. Each of us relates to most of these languages, but each of us has a language that speaks to us the most. The primary love language Discovering and speaking the language of you and your partner on a regular basis can be a great way to spend time together better understanding of the needs of the other person create and Mutual growth support.
Antonia is interested in mindfulness in all areas of life, and especially in topics around personal development and interpersonal relationships.
Take the test: what is your language of love?
To find out Which language of love is strongest for you, you can z.B. take this test – Five languages of love test in German.
After you answer the questions, your Love Language Test score will show you, as a percentage, the extent to which the five categories are strongest for you. Now you can get used to Analysis make.
5 Languages of Love Summary
Here’s an overview of each of the five languages of love Chapman describes:
1. Acknowledgement -words of affirmation and appreciation
Language of love: Acknowledgement – words of affirmation and appreciation
Appreciate people with this language of love verbal affirmations of affection and appreciation. They appreciate, often a"I love you" to listen. Also compliments, vHerbal Encouragement, and frequent digital communication such as texting and engaging in social media go over well with these people, and it makes them feel especially loved.
So written and spoken expressions of affection are most important to these people. This makes them feel understood and appreciated.
communication through: Encouragement, reinforcement, appreciation.. Show empathy through words. Active listening.
What you can do: Send your partner an unexpected note, text message or card. Encourage your partner sincerely and do it as often as possible.
2. togetherness – quality time and undivided attention
Five languages of love: togetherness – quality time
People with this language of love feel most loved when their partner is actively spending time with them Would like and is always willing, doing something with them. They especially love Active listening, eye contact, and full presence are among the priority characteristics in the relationship.
This language of love is about being with that one special person time with undivided attention to spend time together without the distraction of television, phone screens, or other outside interruptions. If this is your primary love language, you have a strong desire to actively spend time with your partner, having meaningful conversations and/or leisure activities together to undertake.
Communication through: Focused conversations without interruptions or external disruptions. Time spent together is crucial.
What you can do: Create special moments with your partner – go for walks and do little things with him/her. Weekend getaways are a particularly hot tip.
3. Support – A Service in the Name of Love
Support: a service in the name of love
If this is your primary language of love, you appreciate it very much when your partner sI make an effort to make your life easier. These are things like bringing soup when you’re sick, making coffee in the morning, or doing small tasks when you’ve had a hard day at work.
This language of love is for people who believe that Actions speak louder than words. In contrast to those who prefer to hear how important they are to someone, people in this category like to, showing them how much you appreciate them. Doing small and big chores to make their life easier or more comfortable is highly appreciated by these people.
Communication through: Use action phrases like "I’d be happy to help you with your daily life. ". Knowing that support and a helping hand is there is crucial.
What you can do: Do chores together with your partner or make him/her breakfast in bed. Make a special effort to make his/her daily life easier.
4. Gifts – A gift of attention as an expression of love
The 5 languages of love – Gifts: an attention as an expression of love
Gifts are a pretty straightforward language of love: you feel loved when people give you"Visual symbols of love" give, as Chapman calls it. It works not about the monetary value, but about the symbolic thought behind the object. People who identify with this recognize and appreciate the process of giving: the careful consideration, the consciously choose the object, to represent the relationship, and the emotional benefit of the gift.
People whose language of love is receiving gifts also enjoy giving something that is both physical and meaningful. The key is, giving meaningful things as gifts, that are important to the person receiving the gift and reflect their values, not necessarily your own.
Communicate through: Be actively thoughtful. Put your partner and what he/she likes first.
What you can do: Make an effort to give thoughtful gifts and gestures. Small things can have a big meaning. Express gratitude when you receive a gift.
5. Tenderness – Physical touch
Tenderness: Physical touch – according to the 5 languages of love by Gary Chapman
People whose language of love is physical touch feel loved when they are Physical signs of affection get. This includes kissing, holding hands, cuddling on the couch, and having sex. Physical intimacy and touch can be incredibly affirming and serve people with that language of love, as Strong emotional connector to their partner*. The roots of this language go back to our Childhood back, because some people only have deep affection and love from their parents felt when held, kissed or touched.
People who communicate their appreciation through this language feel valued and loved when they are hugged, kissed, or caressed, assuming of course that they are okay with it. These people appreciate the feeling of warmth and comfort that comes with physical touch.
Communicate through: Nonverbal language body language and touch is used to express love and affection.
What you can do: Hugs& Kiss your partner, hold hands, show him/her physical affection often. Consciously make intimacy a priority in the relationship.