With these ten tips you have a precious toolbox to build your self-confidence in no time at all.
Some have the potential to literally catapult your state into positive in seconds.
Try it out, see what works for you and write down the things you want to do more often in everyday life from now on.
And do not forget: Have fun with it&
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10 tips for instant self-confidence
1. Smile
The fastest trick I know to get more positive feelings and more self-confidence within seconds. Your mind is connected to your body. One influences the other.
When you feel good and confident, you automatically become more cheerful and get a smile on your face. The other way around is also true. Force a smile and you’ll notice a noticeable change in how you feel and the confidence that comes with it.
Tip: Smile as wide and as strong as you can. Raise both arms as if you just crossed the finish line first in a triathlon and clench your fists as hard as you can.
2. Belly breathing
When you are excited, you notice it the fastest: your pulse increases drastically, your breathing becomes shallow and hectic. The body shifts into a highly aroused state where it becomes difficult to keep a cool head. But you can specifically influence this physical state with a little practice. And this by means of the correct breathing technique.
As soon as you notice your body shifting into an aroused state, consciously begin to slow your breathing and breathe deeply into your lower abdomen. Inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth.
Concentrate consciously on your breathing and where the airflow in your body is going. Feel your belly expand and the air rush out as you exhale. Breathe rhythmically and slowly. It helps me to make a sigh of relief when I do this. This works wonders!
3. Strong posture
As with tip #1, it is again about influencing your emotional state and thus your sense of self-confidence through your posture. Consciously straighten up.
Straight back, head up, look straight ahead. Think shoulders back down into the back pockets of your pants. Chest out. Think of a third eye on your chest that wants to look upwards. Knees are slightly bent and general posture is still relaxed and flexible despite all the straightening.
Think yourself 10% taller than you actually are and make that posture as strong and steady as possible. Think of a tornado coming at you and you would walk right through it in this posture and nothing would happen to you. It must feel this strong! Everything else flies away, only you stay put.
4. Run 25% faster
How does a focused, confident person run compared to a depressed, aimless person?? The answer is simple: confident people are generally more energetic on the road. They know where they want to go. You have a direction and are walking towards the goal full of energy, confidence and cheerfulness.
Do like them!
There’s probably nothing easier to cheer yourself up than just shifting gears while walking. You will automatically feel more energetic, important and self-confident. Give it a try! Next time walk faster through the alleys, with a purposeful look and step.
5. Do sports
Take time for yourself and for your body. When you’re in an energy slump, you automatically feel sluggish and insecure. How can you be confident?
The solution: go outside and do some exercise! Go for a jog, swim, bike ride or just go for a walk. You will feel much better afterwards – stronger and with more energy and zest for life to tackle your tasks.
You not only get your body moving, but you also do something for yourself and your condition. Also, you get a little positive experience on top of that, that you have already accomplished something today. There is nothing better!
6. Get in the front row
Everywhere you look, in the schools, lecture halls and meeting rooms of this world, people are mostly sitting in the back rows. You are afraid to be noticed and prefer to stay invisible. This behavior not only shows low self-esteem, but also reinforces it.
So don’t be one of these. Decide from now on to always take one of the front seats – even if the event has already started. So you fight that irrational fear that something bad might happen if others suddenly notice you, and at the same time you build up your self-confidence.
From now on the front places are your home. Promise?
7. Say it
It is unbelievable how few people actually open their mouths to say something. Most people just sit there and do nothing, then you can’t do anything wrong (I know that only too well, I was like that once). They fear being judged by others if they say something "stupid".
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This fear is totally overrated. The people around you are much more open and accepting than you think. You can’t say anything "wrong" at all. The reality is that these people are just as scared as you are and are usually extremely happy when someone else asks/says what has been on their mind all along.
So, again, if you want to get ahead, speak up and say it! Bring in your ideas. Say what you think about this or that. Share your opinion. Nothing bad can happen!
8. Gratitude
Think about what you are thankful for in life. You may be surprised how effective this tip is. Just by consciously focusing on the things that are really great in your life, you can build up your emotional state and your self-confidence.
Start with yourself. What are you thankful for? What do you appreciate in life? Make yourself clear what you have already achieved everything!
And now don’t tell me there is nothing you are thankful for. I do not believe it. There are certainly a lot of things, you just have to think a little bit and make yourself aware of it (you have e.g. a lot of things).B. a computer on which you read this and with which you can get all the information in the world to your home – for that you can be thankful).
It doesn’t always have to be the most earth-shattering things either. On the contrary: the smallest things are often the best ones.
Then go one step further and think about all the things you are grateful for in your environment (family/friends/profession). Consciously focus on the positive things and not on what upsets you or doesn’t work out. This is all about what you are thankful for in life.
Then go one step further and think about what you find great in this world and in this fascinating life, in this unique moment.
9. Compliment the people around you
When we are not satisfied with ourselves, we often project that dissatisfaction onto other people. To interrupt this negative behavior (which, by the way, doesn’t get you any further and only reinforces the negativity in your life), get into the habit of giving compliments to other people.
Of course you should be honest about it and really mean what you say. Then these people will not only like you more for it, but you will also automatically strengthen your self-confidence.
Because if you always try to see the best in the other person, then you indirectly bring out the best in yourself as well. Not to mention, giving compliments in the beginning can also be a challenge that expands your comfort zone.
10. Contribute something to this world
There’s no better feeling than that of having meaning in life. Make a difference. To be important for other people. Contributing something, to society, to this world we live in. Unfortunately, we are far too often preoccupied with ourselves, our own wants and needs, and of course, our "flaws" and "shortcomings".
Therefore, start focusing more on what you can give to this world and the people around you. Then you will not only reap their gratitude, but also dissolve your own self-consciousness bit by bit.
Your confidence in yourself and the world will increase and you will have this great feeling of contributing, of being important to someone, of making a difference.
The more you give to this world and your fellow human beings, the more you will get back in the end!
Here are a few more tips for an instant self-confidence boost in everyday life:
Bonus: Download my free 12 point plan for more self-confidence here including two extra techniques for instant self-confidence and inner strength in everyday life!
Self-confidence power tips for everyday life
- Think about it – what is the worst thing that can happen? Most of the time this does not justify your fear in any way.
- Look people directly in the eyes.
- Change something about your appearance (video).
- Always sit in the front row.
- Run 25% faster.
- Keep a straight posture. Chest out, head up.
- If you want to say something, say it! Loud and clear. Practice this.
- Stick to the three second rule.
- Give people out there a firm, decisive handshake today.
- Pay special attention to the little things in life (the ducks in the park, the leaves on the trees, how the sheep clouds pass by…)
- Breathe deep into your belly and read away. Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 2 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds, hold for 2 seconds.
- Pay attention to your voice. Keep it coming nicely from the lower belly section. Talk slowly.
- Reward yourself when you do one of these exercises.
- Stop and think about what you are grateful for in your life.
- Look at the circumstances from the right perspective. Ask yourself: Is this really a problem or am I making a fly of it??
- If you’re feeling low on energy: Get moving. Jump up and down, make big faces, run 100 meters and stretch your arms in the air and you’ll feel an instant energy boost
- Keep a diary with your positive experiences.
- Print out positive quotes and hang them everywhere.
- Look to get into action. Do the exercises for real. Reading alone won’t do you much good. Start easy and increase slowly.
- And last but not least: have fun! Look forward to the new challenges and really get to grips with them and you will soon be unrecognizable.
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