He will not be able to give you everything you deserve.
Love is the most coveted human emotion, but love is more than just instinct.
It is important to use our intellect and judgment along with our heart so that we can make the right decisions. Otherwise, we can get so blinded in love that we can get stuck in one-sided relationships that have no future.
If you feel like you’re giving everything to the relationship and it’s still not moving forward, it could be because your partner is still in love with their ex and needs to sort out their feelings before moving forward in a new relationship.
Here’s a list of 13 signs that your partner is still not over his ex:
1. He is still angry with her.
If someone is still angry at his ex, it’s a clear warning sign that he’s not over her yet. His anger is just a manifestation of the pain he is holding in because of the failure of the relationship.
When someone has really moved on from his former relationship, he becomes apathetic and indifferent towards the ex instead of being filled with anger towards her.
Anger and hatred only show that he still has intense feelings for his ex-partner and hasn’t come to terms with the breakup yet.
2. All the little things that remind him of her.
If all the little things – like what you wear, how you talk, the places you visit, or what perfume you wear – remind him of her, he’s clearly not over his ex yet.
Ideally, he should take more time to pay attention to you and compliment you instead of talking about his ex all the time.
If he’s not 100% wholeheartedly in the relationship, you should just let it go and move on.
3. He’s still interested in their life.
If he’s still trying to figure out what’s going on in her life, either by asking mutual friends or checking her social media or stalking her, that’s an extreme warning sign that he still has feelings for her and hopes to get back together with her.
Even though it’s okay to stay friends with your ex, it’s not okay to worry your head about every little thing in her life or take too much interest in her affairs.
4. He is still in contact with her family.
When you’re in a relationship, you obviously want to be in contact with your partner’s family and friends as well. However, once the relationship is over, contact with friends and family slowly fizzles out.
If your partner is still making an effort to keep in touch with his ex’s family, it could be because he’s trying to gain insight into his ex’s life and find out if she’s still single and if he still has a chance of winning her back.
Or he could be trying to impress her family so they can help him get his ex back.
5. He still talks to her on social media.
If someone is over their ex, they shouldn’t be liking every comment and photo of their ex on social media.
If he’s still doing that, it’s a clear sign that he’s trying to get her attention and hoping to rekindle the spark.
6. He compares you to her.
If he is constantly comparing the two of you in all sorts of little ways, such as how she cooked, how she dressed fancy, or how intelligent or mature she is, he is consciously or subconsciously comparing you only to her and that is not a good thing.
You are a unique individual and should be with someone who likes you for who you are instead of trying to turn you into a mirror image of his ex.
7. He talks a lot about his past.
We all talk about the past to remember and relive the good times. If he’s constantly talking about his ex and the things they did together and the places they visited together, it’s a clear sign that he still misses the good times he spent with her.
When he constantly mentions their vacations together or their daily rituals, he clearly misses her a lot.
8. He shares more with her about his life than he shares with you.
If he shares his dreams, passions, and what’s going on in his life more with her than he does with you, he obviously shares more comfort and connection with her than he does with you.
Well-being, trust and commitment are the basic building blocks of a good, fulfilling and long-lasting relationship.
If you don’t have these things in your relationship, you need to reflect a little bit and take appropriate action.
9. He’s hesitant to commit to you.
It’s normal to need some time before committing to someone. But if you’ve been dating for a while and he’s still hesitant to make it binding, it shows he’s still insecure about you or still not over his ex.
If he’s constantly dodging the question of how things are, he’s probably not very eager to take the next step in the relationship.
10. He keeps mentioning her name in conversations.
If we like someone, we can’t help but constantly bring up his or her name in conversation. It’s because we think about this person all the time.
If your partner constantly brings up his ex’s name in conversation, you can imagine how much he thinks about her and how much he misses her.
11. He still talks to her and dates her without telling you.
Sometimes people stay friends with their ex, especially if they were good friends before they got together.
But if your partner spends time with their ex without even telling you, they’re not being as honest with you in the relationship as they should be.
If he had no intentions of getting back together with his ex and if he had a healthy relationship with you, he wouldn’t mind telling you about meetings with his ex.
12. He is hot and cold to you.
It’s very easy to tell how someone feels about you by observing their behavior. If someone really likes you, their care for you and attention to you are consistent.
But if someone is insecure about his feelings for you, it will be reflected by the erraticness of his behavior.
If he spends days without talking to you and then comes back and showers you with love only to disappear again, he’s not sure about his feelings for you and is just keeping you warm as a fallback option.
13. The breakup was not his decision.
Breakups are always hard, more so when they weren’t your decision to make. The one who is broken up with has difficulty accepting that it is over.
In his head he is looking for closure. He keeps asking himself, "What did I do wrong??", "Why didn’t I see the signs that it was coming to an end??", "What could I have done differently to save the relationship?"
If your partner is still struggling with these questions, he’s definitely not over his ex and needs to sort out his feelings before he can move forward in a new relationship.