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mentally strong people
Dali Ostojic
Speakers, system. Coach, Dipl. Mental coach, Cert. in Psychology for High Performance Sports on FC Barcelona Universitas.
What can be the reason ?
There are people who can’t be thrown off course by practically anything, while others go to pieces at the slightest challenge!
Some of us are confronted with heavy blows of fate and suffering in life, which others are spared. However, it seems that those who have been through a lot often have a more positive attitude towards life than those who have been handled with kid gloves.
What do those survivors who have both feet on the ground do differently than the perpetual worriers??
What distinguishes people who take every blow in life and carry it with them, from all those who can barely get a stumbling block out of the way?
We are sure – it depends on how you deal with certain events. You cannot influence the severity of the suffering you experience, but you can influence the way you deal with it
8 things mentally strong people never do, we tell you here
1. They don’t waste energy on uncontrollable things
There are things that you simply cannot change. What is the use then of getting worked up about it for hours, days or even weeks on end?! That’s right, other than a bad mood and, in the worst case, even a nervous breakdown, "babbling" about the uncontrollable gets us absolutely nowhere. One more reason to just accept these things, and not waste energy on them.
2. changes do not scare them
There is only one thing in life that is certain – and that is change! Those who close their minds to it or. If you fight desperately against it, you have already lost. Instead, it should be seen as an opportunity. Because when one door closes, another one opens somewhere else. Although we can’t completely hide the worries that come with it, they should not hinder us in our development.
3. They don’t give too much power to the past
The fact is: our energy belongs solely to the present! The here and now is also the only place where we can actively act, process and live. Everything else is important, and a part of us, but one must not live one’s life only by the past or by the past alone. talk their way out of it. Because that’s the fastest way to disaster.
4. You do not sink into self-pity
While the so-called self-compassion makes us actively take care of our well-being, self-pity, on the other hand, leads us to a chain of complaining. Questions like "Why always me??"In this state, we are only too happy to give up control of our happiness bit by bit. Without self-responsibility or acceptance that not everything in life is always fair, one makes oneself small and surrenders to one’s self-made miserable fate, instead of growing with self-compassion, learning from experiences, and even being grateful for them. After all, they are the ones who continually push us forward.
5. You do not denigrate your success to others
Instead of looking at the achievements, accomplishments and successes of others with resentment, one could rather be inspired by them. Freely according to the motto "What he can do, I can do too"!"A healthy degree of competitiveness can be very helpful in achieving your goals. The first step is to follow up with action instead of just complaining about how little XY and how much we ourselves deserve this success. Man must put his energy into the realization of his dreams, and not be a self-appointed judge of who deserves what success and who doesn’t.
6. You are not impatient
As the saying goes: "Good things take time!"Nothing that was good and truly significant ever fell from the sky. That is why patience is needed first and foremost. Everything that is worth something must also be worth a certain amount of prudence. Therefore, going through the wall with one’s head is not really the way to go. It takes strength, no doubt, but it also takes growth, and so you move forward step by step.
7. Foreseeable risks are not a deterrent
Of course, you should not head over heels to take any risk. For the time being, you have to weigh up whether it is worth taking this on. Instead, ask yourself the question: "What is the worst that can happen, and what is the best??"If the positive side outweighs the negative side in this comparison, then it is definitely worth a try.
8. Giving up is not an option
We adults are much more inclined to give up than, for example, children. If we had learned to walk only in adulthood, most of us would probably not be able to move on two legs, because we are too easily intimidated, deterred and thus dissuaded from our goals. The first fall would probably have led many of us to resignation. The truth is that every attempt brings us closer to our goal – but only if we are willing to learn from it.